letters from a depressed garden flamingo painter
Dearest Mia,
I lie and hear in a state of delayed orgasm, strapped and permanent in a coffin of
thought, inside of an inside of an inside of pleasure and horror. Iʼm a Matryoshka
Doll of bad ideas. I look out at an ocean of my own cells, blood letting where blood
cannot flow. I digress for I am ahead of myself. Thank you again for the Venmo of
hundred bones to avoid having my thumbs cut off by the local Baccarat experts.
Your questions about Cheryl must go unanswered for now, and I do agree with
your decision to represent yourself in that upcoming traffic violation court hearing.
Smart move! Spin those barristerʼs heads like the soft kittens they are.
These days the currency of the realm is loneliness, but on the currency exchange
is fear. I was speaking to my friend Art the other night. I have told you about him,
an ex highschool history teacher who was fired for breaking a parentʼs nose with a
cellphone in the parking lot of St John the Baptist prep. We were sharing a scotch
over at the Rogers Park Social, he could not stay for long, it was Motherʼs Day
tomorrow and he had to be back in LaGrange. He had enough time to tell me his
theory about the American phenomenon known as the soap opera. I figured you
could relate, you do like telling me about “Eastenders” even though I keep telling
you I have never see it. Now, of course every culture has its version of this genre,
but he was particularly focused on the American soap. The first of which was
actually a Chicago radio show called “Painted Dreams” started back in 1930. The
term "soap opera" originated from radio dramas originally being sponsored by
soap manufacturers because they were listened to by housewives cleaning. He
wanted to compare the evolution of these shows with the superhero genre today,
the open narrative in which characters go through an endless series of conflicts,
pains, losses and melodrama that never seem to crush their spirits or at least
convince them to find a new group of friends. If you look up Luke Spencer on
wikipedia, one of the main characters from General Hospital (who apparently was
finally killed this year, I assume by atom bomb) you will see the endless list of
bizarre death-defying things that have happened to this man, good grief, I would
have dropped dead of PTSD sometime after getting caught in the avalanche of
ʼ83. Now, the idea that this ridiculous suspension of disbelief was a necessary
aspect of womenʼs tv story choices is both sexists and stupid. If anyone really
thinks about how many times Spiderman has almost been killed saving the world,
Peter Parker should be on Haloperidol 24 hours a day. Comic book characters also
have this same soap opera-like ‘comicallyʼ endless parade of conflicts and pains
that never deter them or degrade them. And although comic books were mostly
marketed to young boys to sell bubblegum ads, here in 2023 the new soup opera
that attracts all genders, all ages and all inclinations is the Marvel Cinematic
Universe: a seemingly endless billion dollar regurgitation of struggles, deaths and
resurrections. Art pointed to Robert Downey Jrʼs role in the 1991 movie “Soap
Dish” as a perfect psychic bridge to the Marvel Comic Book Industrial Revolution.
Hell, Iron Man doesnʼt start getting PTSD til the third film, he should have had it
right after getting out of Afghanistan. Comic Book movies have become Americaʼs
soap opera, tales of heroes who endure, who solve unsolvable problems only to
replaced by new unsolvable problems, pushing boulders up a hill and oceans back
with a broom. I find the whole genre quite tiresome. I admire a lack of ambition and
as a coward and a layabout, taking risks and facing fears was never my
prescription for a long life. And lets face its, Alan Moore was right, if superheroes
really did exist, they would be fascists.
I said goodbye to Art for the evening, he picked up the bill. I asked what he did to
get by after being unemployed for so long. He told me “flipping houses.” I picked
the wrong profession. You having lived in England your whole life, you donʼt
appreciate the American love of real estate. That is why London Bridge is in
Arizona. Oh, I did watch the coronation of King Charles the other day, who looked
liked an absolute dickhead. Bravo! I wandered down the street looking up that
night sky and wondered when I would start seeing lightning bugs. My thoughts
turned to heroes and history.
In January of 1789 on the island of Tahiti, the dude-bro himbo-hero Fletcher
Christian and his fellow feckless crew of the H.M.S. Bounty, in the middle of a long,
arduous and most likely purposeless vegetarian transforming seafaring voyage,
found themselves astride and aligned lounging on self-sucking sun-kissed
beaches and under water falls, surrounded by countless hefted cliff-less naked
breasts and guiltless supping on the rarest sugary fruit and ripe nut that would
rival the dopamine hit of any lengthy rail of refined cocaine. These petty English
gents who had survived under the cruel and sadistic command of alpha-top power
Dom Captain William Bligh, who by wrangling will of the before mentioned Fletcher
Christian would within a few early months lead a heartfelt, foolhardy and eventual
assault and failure of a mutiny. Twenty five of these men would eject their captain,
make the mistake of not killing him on the spot, and gain their freedom for a few
years, to be unowned and unobliged. But most would eventually be hunted down
arrested and killed. Philosophers can look to this story of these begotten rebels
and ponder the anal finite questions of order vs chaos, human liberty vs the
pragmatism of hierarchy, justice vs duty . . I confess, I lack the passion and
charisma of a revolutionary, and although I am still a card caring queer polysexual
socialist and in my youth I marched against the blood for oil and occupied a
Wallstreet here and there, I had no stomach for propaganda of the deed, again,
cowardice is a virtue in my humble stride. As much as I wanted to change to the
world, I was no Jack Reed . . but in my dreariest of hopes, Iʼd like to think i would
have made a good mutineer. I certainly wanted to enlist my coworkers to
overthrow our employer on many an occasion. Not sure of the motivations of these
sailors form hundreds of years ago, as Englishmen Iʼm sure they had to fight their
born and bred propensity for being catspaws, and quislings and milksops. But in
the heart of every Englishmen beats an anarchist and a glorious pervert, let us all
pray. At the very least, as they indulged in mid voyage shore leave in Polynesian
bacchanalia they simple could not refuse the haunting battlecry in the mind of
every sane human on this god forsaken planet:
“I donʼt want to work, I want to bang on the drum all day.”
Walking home from the Social, I caught my reflection in the window. The two or
three scars around my chin from too many lost fights. Thinking of Artʼs day with
his family tomorrow, my mind wandered back to the year of our disgrace, 2016
when I found myself in the throws of desperation, once again. My mother had just
been diagnosed with ALS, pseudobulber palsy, which had started a year ago and
consumed her ability to speak, I would never hear her unrecorded spontaneous
voice ever again and over the phone my father would read me her messages from
a typing tablet she used to communicate. Pretty soon her mortal affliction would
drain the family of money and her torturous death would drive my father to drink
himself to death less than two years later. I was stuck in a dead end job being paid
in less than sufficient cash for this mega-city or for being able to visit her. Almost
friendless, my alcoholism was in full swing I would be at the Red Line Tap every
day communing and commiserating with creeps and nerʼdoʼwells, passing away
my less than precious consciousness for any attention. A rather gangly and illsuited
couple hung onto me, letʼs call them Jack and Diane. She was an attractive
sort but bitter and shallow, he was a pill and an absolute bore, they both
represented a sickness in older people swinging into conservatism as the idealism
of their brilliant sexy 20ʼs faded away. I found them obnoxious beyond saving and
in my drunken obnoxiousness I proceeded to assist in helping her break up with
him. She was sick of his dour face and useless cock and I helped guide her to the
light of dumping his useless fat ass. The next day he got a sense of what had
transpired and when bumping into him seeking spirits at that local tavern he
proceeded to beat the snot out of me and leave me on the sidewalk. I walked
home with a broken face and a rockbottom curve in my spine and realized I once
again must stop everything I am doing, sober up for awhile (not for long I hoped)
and reboot. I remembered as a child on the Jersey shore with the salty smell of the
ocean soaking up my childish thoughts I would sit and watch Star Trek the Next
Generation while building scale modes of old sailing ships. I figured to help me
through the boredom of inebriation deficiency I would do that again. I want to the
local hobby store and sussed out potential plastic scale models to build, I certainly
was looking forward to the high of plastic cement fumes . . and on the top shelf
and some what reasonably priced was a scale model of the H.M.S. Bounty. I
tackled it. Took three weeks. It continues to sit dusty but complete on my long
shuttered fireplace mantel, a faithful rendition and I treasure it as a token and idol
of the rebellious spirit I had drowned away so long ago.
I continued down the street and was trying to find a path to the lake, I saw a text
message on my phone from older brother which I promptly ignored. It was
probably about Motherʼs Day. He currently runs a right wing radio talk show where
he interviews Proud Boys and Antifa hunters. I had always hoped he was just a
“swimming pool Republican” but that Divorced Dad energy has him going full nazi
these days. Speaking more of history and histrionics, January 6th of 2021 we all
witnessed a much different type of bacchanalia, by a rather unreasonable group of
potential mutineers, styled both old and new, the most striking feature of the
average Jan 6th capital rioter, besides their shared loved of “Call of Duty” cosplay
and rifle fetishism, is how comfortably well-off all them were, especially compared
to Americaʼs most poor and desperate, Robert Paps of the Chicago Project on
Security and Threats at the University of Chicago, found in his analysis of this
group were of mostly white collar middle class business owners with only 7%
unemployment and a rare amount of actual military service . . the insanely racist
and violent rhetoric of this new revolutionary class seems to be bound by a
strange attractor and poses a very question: “what the hell do these people want
and why the fuck are they being so rowdy about it?”, why would some of the most
pampered and comfortable beer-battered-burger-swilling, air-conditioned, flesh
balloons of consumerist gluttony have such a gaping want of demands that
burning down the capitol building and risking jail was worth the risk of that want?
As we are told in this historical wax pinnacle of neoliberal democratic capitalism, a
post cold-war ebb where techno-oligarchy has proven to be the greatest
achievement and best system that reflects the will and nature of the Christian
white male . . what could possibly be the source of an insurrectionist anger from
couch potato small business mini-tyrants, the most remarkably untalented
mediocre white men in all of world endeavor?
Having lived through the misery of post 911, sheltered in the hippie bars of
northern Chicago I suppose I am cut off from the mind rending hell that is rural
Ohio or seen the Tribble like exponential multiplication of the Confederate flags on
the dilapidated porches of west Pennsylvania small towns. But is this national
argument really anything new . . isnʼt the general complaint of white America just a
regurgitation of what was formed in 1965 post Goldwater where Buckley and his
group of pseudo intellectuals gave rise to a conservative movement masquerading
in the over investigation of Stateʼs rights for what essentially (considering
Americaʼs god given birthright . ) is just a racial hierarchy where white men sit at
the top and command money and power. Isnʼt that also just a regurgitation of the
failures of the founders to craft anything that didnʼt served their land grabbing
needs Is not the constitution of the United States still a blueprint for “how to be a
slave owner.” Isnʼt the failure of the Reconstruction Era to fulfill the promises of
the Civil War actually part of the plan? So wasnʼt it a success? I would imagine that
the generals of the Confederate army would have been hung for treason, instead a
group of them went on to form the Ku Klux Klan and police the servitude and
continued destitution of Black Americans with no punishment for their
insurrection, something which would continue to this day, often in simple police
uniforms.
It is a long suffering truth that the marriage of American Protestantism and
Capitalism has led to the downfall of any rational or compassionate spirit in a U.S.
citizen, and although I believe in the inherent goodness of my fellow Terran-born
carbon-based creature, as I get older I grow weary of this country and its bloodsoaked
land, itʼs naked sadism, avarice and buffoonery. The rise of a fascist
movement in America is often besmirched as hyperbole by the confused centrist
or as blatant anti-intellectualism of the armchair communist. Fascism is a
particular movement and structure in history, the failure of capitalism to provide
the spoils and treasure to its adepts will result sadly not in a communist marxist
revolution to the equality and community of all human kind, but leans almost
always on a road to fascism, the weaponization of death drive, the need to locate
an everlasting series of internal and external threats and scapegoats and
sacrificial lambs to the aggrievement of caucasian heteronormative two car garage
jet ski dealers . . and to inspire the most stupid violence to eradicate them. It is
often said by nitpicky brand of pedantic philistines that the first one to use Hitler
as an analogy in an argument loses . . I find this reverse engineered marketing to
be completely ridiculous, are we supposed to wait until America looks exactly like
a fascist or totalitarian state before we call it that? Seems like that would be by
then considerably way too late, and in serving of no more purpose. History is there
to known and learned to be prevented.
What the MAGA white supremacists and christian nationalists of 2023 donʼt
understand, is that money is not the solution to their problems. Immigrants arenʼt
stealing their jobs and sucking away social services, women have not replaced
them in the workforce and racial and LGBTQ sensitivity isnʼt causing companies to
go broke. But even if an economic explanation for bigotry could be made to make
sense . . it is misplaced desire. People think they want to be rich and in the
Barnum and Bailout con-man used car lot of America, everyone is just a
temporarily embarrassed millionaire and fortune is but a single good idea away . .
but what people really want is stability. They want a roof over their head and a
floor beneath their feet with no trap doors and no forgotten passwords, food after
hard but dignified labor and the free time to advance oneʼs dreams. Acquiring a
large sum of money doesnʼt bring stability, it brings the opposite, it brings chaos.
The fact that we destroy billions in resource just to stabilize prices so that the loaf
of bread and the mini mansion mortgage is always out of the grasp of “the working
poor” (something only our country deems a rational phrasing of words) is all the
proof we need that capitalism is the mother of all chaos, it is ultimate disorder, it is
the weaponization of instability and precarity, to discipline labor and fatten the
coffers of useless Fox News grandpas, who pinch their chubby flanks and giggle in
their Boomer decadence as the whole thing burns down having suckled the last
profits of FDRʼs New Deal, a shared commitment to a gated community.
I remember the days of 2016, the year I completed the creation of the snack sized
HMS Bounty. It would prove to be a turning point in US politics and the rise of a
racist fascist religious hatred of all queer and trans, all woman and the rights to
their own bodies, all immigrants and their wish to be free of pain and serfdom, In
that year I had a very terrible 40th birthday. George Orwell said your face at the
age of 40 is the face you have earned. My various cuts and bruises from being
pummeled by an alcoholic pharmacist were healing very slowly. I wanted to stay
home and hide under my bedsheets but I was dragged to a secretive Thai
restaurant by a misbegotten acquaintance, a recently divorced blackjack dealer
with a missing finger. He could converse well enough and was also lonely. I choked
down my vegetarian curry and felt the bleeding of my colonʼs pre-cancerous
polyps. While languishing in my balding and broken body I got a text message
from my cousin Charles, he was inviting me out for drinks at the Hopleaf in
Andersonville. He was with his friends, he knew I was going through a rough patch
and had lost most of my friends and would be alone so he asked me to join him. I
arrived to a boisterous room of strangers. The gang was a motley sort who talked
endlessly of sports ball and prestige television. I slowly sipped my scotch and
pushed the definition of politeness to its limits. One of his friends there was
named David, he was in his mid twenties and he was in a wheelchair. I had never
met him before. Toward the end of the night after a lot of drink, we ended up
talking. He confided in me and told me how he became a paraplegic. A few years
ago he had gone camping with friends. One day on the trip, they went and found a
high cliff over a lake. One by one they stood on the edge of the cliff and in a
moment of blind courage and “the will to conquer oneʼs fear,” they jumped off the
edge of the cliff into the lake, probably feeling so much excitement and joy as they
emerged from the water. David was unfortunate to land on a hidden rock in a
shallow part of the lake, he broke his back and was paralyzed forever.
I think about him sometimes, about how every night after that day he must have
re-lived that moment, over and over, on the edge of that cliff, when he made the
choice to jump. How in one simple moment, in one choice, his entire life was
altered forever. And if had he chosen not to jump, if he had obeyed his fear and his
anxiety, he could be running on a beach right now. Sometimes fear and cowardice
are our allies, they can be out best friends. To all those huckster therapists and
self-help gurus who tell us to self-actualize and conquer our fears and live life to
the fullest, embrace bravery and fulfill their potential, Iʼm sorry I call bullshit. Say
that to Davidʼs face and then go cash his check. We want to believe our lives are
defined by what we do, but in a universe this vast and powerful and unknowable,
the infinite amount of choices we donʼt make and paths we donʼt take, define us
more than we could laughably say we do. I try to remember that every day we are
all standing on the edge of our imaginary cliffs, facing similar fears, wishing we
were Iron Man or Thor, or Captain America (whichever one could fly.)
I often think about Davidʼs friends, his fellow mutineers against gravity. How they
survived the jump physically unscathed, but must have lived with survivorʼs guilt.
Were they able to stay his friends and be there for him? I know after he was
injured, his fianc. left him. Maybe that was the best choice, or the worse, who
knows? I often think of a kid born with cancer, or a woman with ALS, who never
made a choice like that. Would they scoff at his story, and talk of how he
squandered a gift with such a flippant act, to juggle with fate with such abandon.
Is the point of life to conquer our fears? I donʼt think so. The point of life, if there is
any, is to truly understand how absurd and scary it is to live in a world where no
sense can be made, where bad things happen to good people, where there is no
justice and fairness but what we try to make and to hold each other in friendship
and compassion as we try to survive and thrive for whatever brief time we have.
By the way, I donʼt really know if his name was David, by that time of my 40th
birthday I was too smashed to remember. I can only remember the fear, the racked
curse of courage, that scales will always grow back on our eyes, that anxiety is a
constant companion and a final revelation. I wake up in the sundry scorn of wish, I
need no faith for a I have seen the community that Christ beheld. I know that the
search for human connection is more powerful than the will in any competition. I
know humanity is more real than me, so I step back, and want of that community,
whose precious invite betrayed Kafkaʼs Trial, whoʼs warm embrace could ripple the
cold hallways and the salted soil of lost lands.
My motherʼs ALS would soon take her from this world, by 2018. She was almost
completely paralyzed when she died, in horrible pain mind you, I wasnʼt able to be
there. I was working. I canʼt ever manage to encompass all the ways my mom
taught me about love and loss, forced me to be a good person in the unluckiest of
ways, basically saved my life from myself. Itʼs too much of a brilliant soul to bear.
She was a holy terror, her insults would scar my brain for decades on end. Her wit
was unmatched and her low tolerance for bullshit was inspiring. There are flashes
of capricious connection and forged respect that are buried in my sinews. So
much time has passed I often canʼt wipe the fog from the memories about her. I do
remember something though, something weird and awesome. A foggy recollection
on a lone night on a visit back to my familyʼs home in New Jersey many years past,
long before the illness began. You have to realize, my whole entire life has been
based on the idea that honesty is what we are missing as a lost creature, as a
homeless animal. If you have ever met my mother she has the will and the worth
and no choice but to confront you with the truth and she is brave enough to do it.
She inspired me to become a philosopher and an artist and a friend, and she did it
through that courage that is trapped inside us all. I owe any accomplishment to
her as I skirt the event horizon of a the back hole of knowing something you didnʼt
want to know.
So, I was having a drink with her that night as we usually did, talking for hours
upon hours about chaotic messy life and i asked her “if she could do it over again
would she have had kids?” In that moment I knew she was weighing my life against
hers. She was being asked to eradicate me for another possible future of her own.
She looked at me and she spoke her heart and she said she has often wondered if
her life would have been better if she was allowed to pursue dreams and not raised
children, and that maybe, if given another chance she would choose not to. That
was about as honest a moment between a mother and a son as possible. and
surprisingly, or not surprisingly, I was not hurt, I was not wounded or broken.
Because in that moment I felt my mother was so much like me. Real. Burdened
with choices. Uncompromising DNA. Living an aware life. I was happy she spoke to
me in absolute honesty and in that moment, because it made me understand my
life was a gift and a gamble. I was an absurd miracle, a million stars and planets
had to align to to make my existence possible and my role, my duty, is to carry on
that miracle, that random crazy happiness. So because of her I wanted and want
to face the whole world in promise that I would never lie, I would never be
ashamed, I would always be human, I would give back the gift of life by being
honest with everyone I ever knew so that they would be free to do the same. I
donʼt think I did any of those things, but I remember trying.
My mother made unbelievable and endless sacrifices so that I could be born, tis
quite the currency exchange.
I must go now, the morphine and scotch are done negotiating and I can see
headlights in the driveway. I shall most likely need another hundred in a few weeks.
-Your dearest, Jack Fitzgerald Renfield